Happy People-This I Know

Happy People-This I Know

How Do You Get To Happy? Take responsibility for your role in the situation. People do others wrong daily and some play the victim oh-so-well. However what must be understood is that you can only control yourself. You can’t change other people. I know that this has been said time and again but it’s said because it’s easily forgotten when you’re in the situation. Start from the beginning. When people show you who they are, believe them. We often don’t heed the signs of crazy or insecurity or wandering eyes but they are there underneath the surface. In some cases, people are transparent about their idiosyncrasies and we see them as cute or things we can ‘deal with’. Another adage can be inserted here: to thy own self be true.  I know what I can deal with so I’m never afraid to have the hard conversations or sit in the uncomfortable silences. I teach people how to treat me—for the most part I won’t be the same fool twice. I don’t argue because from a distance people can’t tell the difference between me and the fool and beyond that nothing has changed except now I’ve sweated out my perm. At the end of the day it’s about being happy and if you don’t make me happy I can leave. I have no intention of explaining to a judge that I’m standing before him with a charge of violence because I was mad. If you think about it, that is the reason most people stand before a judge. More than that, I don’t have any bail money!

How do you resolve conflicts in your relationships/friendships?

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  1. As hard as it can be for me I’ve learn to leave them with their ignorance. Krama and or experience will eventually set them straight.

  2. Intially..I was a “stick-my-head-in-the-sand”sorta person..a people-pleaser at other times..but when I reach the end of my days on this earth…who will I have lived them for? There aren’t any “do-overs” or “my Bads”..its OVER!So I’m going to say what I need to say, to whomever I need to say it to! I have also realized (with age) that it’s not how loud I say what I have to say..it’s what I say!! I can melt the expression from your face with some well delivered words that land on you with the intensity and force of a sledge hammer and yet never will the smile leave my face or my voice rise above a whisper.Play with me if you want!My perm cost too much and my reputation too invaluable for the BS! Ya heard!?!? LOL…


  3. AND another thing…red flags are RED for a reason..it’s not a pink flag or a magenta flag or a cute “candy-apple” red flag..its RED..”a big bright ole lookee here” red!!!It’s not yellow..cause then you could preceed with caution..It’s RED!!..so STOP ALREADY!! I’m just sayin..

  4. Thank you for the support!


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